As breastfeeding challenges persist, some families are turning to wet nursing for support.
Category: Health
In a world flooded with information about infant feeding options, many new mothers find themselves overwhelmed. From breastfeeding and pumping to formula and donor milk, the choices can be dizzying. Yet, there’s one method that often flies under the radar: wet nursing. This age-old practice, where a woman breastfeeds a child that is not her own, is experiencing a quiet resurgence, as seen in a trending post on r/beyondthebump.
Historically, wet nursing was a common solution for mothers who were unable or unwilling to breastfeed. Before the advent of infant formula and feeding bottles in the 19th century, wet nurses played a key role in childcare. Today, the practice is making a comeback, as some families are discovering its potential benefits.
To shed light on this often-taboo topic, TODAY.com shared the experiences of three women who have navigated the world of wet nursing. Their stories reveal the emotional and practical aspects of this practice, highlighting its relevance in today’s parenting culture.
Terri Albert, a therapist from Arkansas, had an unexpected experience with wet nursing. When her son was just two months old, she began attending college classes nearly two hours from home. During this time, her mother, who was still breastfeeding her own toddler, stepped in to breastfeed Albert's son after he refused to take a bottle. "My mom breastfed my son. How's that for a hook?" Albert shared in a TikTok video. Initially shocked, she later expressed gratitude, noting that her mother’s decision was a lifesaver for her son, who was struggling without her.
In Canada, Natalie LeClaire, a registered nurse, also embraced the practice when a friend needed help. The friend's medical treatment prevented her from breastfeeding her 14-month-old son, who was still nursing. "I was very pro-breastfeeding, and I was like, 'Absolutely,'" LeClaire recalled. Her brief experience with wet nursing was more about helping the child retain his latch than providing nutrition, illustrating how modern wet nursing can adapt to different needs.
Hope Donovan, a teacher from New Jersey, faced challenges with milk production after undergoing breast reduction surgery. Her sisters, both active breastfeeding mothers, readily offered their support. They provided her with frozen breast milk and occasionally breastfed Donovan's son when she was unable to. "It took a load off of my brain and body because I had this medical thing where I couldn't produce as much as my sisters," Donovan explained.
As with any feeding method, safety is a concern. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for at least six months, but what if a mother cannot breastfeed? Wet nursing presents both risks and benefits. Bryn Pearson, a lactation consultant at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, cautions that wet nursing lacks the safeguards found in milk banks. "There are not necessarily any safeguards in place to assure the person sharing the milk lives a healthy lifestyle and is free from disease," she noted. Parents are urged to weigh the risks and benefits before deciding on this method of feeding.
As mothers navigate feeding challenges, they may encounter what’s known as a "breastfeeding crisis" around the three-month mark. This phase can involve infants becoming fussy, refusing to latch, or popping on and off the breast. According to lactation specialists, this behavior often leads mothers to fear that their milk supply is diminishing. In reality, it’s usually a natural regulation of milk production as the body adjusts to the baby's needs.
During this period, mothers may notice changes such as softer breasts and less frequent leaking, which can be alarming. "When we get to three months, it’s really common for people’s supply to regulate and to have that feeling of softness, and for the breast to not feel engorged and full," explained Emma Pickett, an international board-certified lactation consultant. This is often misinterpreted as a decrease in milk supply. Instead, it’s a sign that the body is becoming more efficient at producing milk.
For parents concerned about their milk supply during this phase, experts recommend staying calm and avoiding knee-jerk reactions like introducing formula. Instead, they suggest continuing to breastfeed responsively based on the baby's cues. If pumping, it's important to maintain a regular schedule to help stimulate milk production.
For mothers who need to pump, selecting the right breast pump can make a world of difference. The New York Times Wirecutter recently reviewed various breast pumps, highlighting the Spectra S1 Plus as a top choice. Known for its efficiency and quiet operation, this double electric pump allows for customizable suction settings, making it a favorite among many parents.
For those looking for portable options, the BabyBuddha Portable Breast Pump has gained popularity for its strong suction and user-friendly design. It’s lightweight and compact, making it easy to use on the go, though it requires a pumping bra to hold it in place.
Wet nursing, though not commonly discussed, offers a unique solution for families facing breastfeeding challenges. As mothers navigate the intricacies of infant feeding, it’s important to explore all available options, including wet nursing, and to seek support from healthcare professionals. Whether through personal connections or professional resources, the goal remains the same: ensuring that every baby receives the nourishment they need to thrive.